What is marriage?

In some people’s opinions, marriage is the symbol of love and companionship; some might think that marriage is the destination of two people after a long-courtship; or some might think marriage is the grave of love. To me, I think that marriage is a journey which attracts travelers with the same goals and interests to come together. Also, it is the combination of understanding and tolerance.

In many case, marriage starts when two people are willing to share their same interests. Marriage is a process in which finding the right soul mate to go thought the whole life. In my comprehension, marriage companies with the same interest. When two people fall in love and get married should attracted by their same interests. In ancient China, Chinese woman had no rights or freedom to choose their husband because of their subordinate social status. In this case, their parents arranged most of the marriages at that time. Ironically, some case indicates that ancient Chinese women did not know who would become their husbands until they got married. Before an ancient Chinese woman married, what she knew about her husband was simply his name and family status, but little about his passion and interest. After they got married, they had trouble to communicate with each other because they did not know each other and did not have the same topic to talk to, so their marriage ended as a tragedy.

Marriage is the combination of understanding and tolerance. As Kluun Ray states in his book Love life, “Forgiveness is a part of love.” In the book, Danny, the main character, began to dating with other women when his wife, Carmen, was diagnosed with breast cancer. They used to be a young couple who loved each other and had a happy family. However, the cancer put them into the center of the storm. Danny did not know how to face that fact that his wife was dying, so he kept dating with other women to escape from loneliness. At the same time, Carmen wanted to end up her marriage because she could not bear her ugly look and her husband’s infidelity any more. However, Danny finally showed his understanding and tolerance to his wife, and companies her to the rest of her life, and of course, Carmen forgave Danny’s infidelity. In the story, many women like Carmen, suffered from breast cancer, but most of their husbands left them behind. The reason why those husbands turn their back to their wives when the hardship comes is that they lack understanding and tolerance. They do not hold a strong faith for their marriages. If couples know how to understand each other and learn how to tolerate each other, they can hold their marriage tightly no matter what happen to them.

Marriage is a myth for many people. For this reason, it pushes people to step into the world of marriage. Although I am too young to find out what marriage is, I can define my own meaning of marriage: Marriage is a course that teaches people how to cherish each other, how to overcome hardship with each other, and how to rely on each other. Meanwhile, marriage is a long road that finds out the soul mate, and can teach us how to understand and tolerate each other.